Super Woman Vs Happy Woman

Are healthy boundaries possible being a woman?

It's hard to imagine that you could possibly put yourself first when there are so many things to get done. How do some women balance business, love, and children and still have a pulse at the end of the day?

This has been the theme of almost every coaching call last week. Women are screaming for relief from the worlds demands.

I spoke to a client today, who alarmingly told me, that she and her friends have decided that they no don't want to take care of another man again. They are happy to be alone.

Is this really what we have to look forward to? A life alone.

Let's analyze what has caused our conditioning from a place of responsibility!
• Stage 1 - when a woman is single she typically puts her career first.
• Stage 2 - when she is in love, she often makes her mate a priority over her own needs.
• Stage 3 - when she has children her babies become her focal point.

So for your entire life you have been practicing coming in second place!

Times are changing fast!

You may be feeling the pull to take care of yourself? And, here is why!

Energetically women are being called forward to bathe themselves in an abundance of self love. They are being prepared to hold the context for the masculine to do what they need to do.

Now don't take this as a reason to put up walls because that is not what I am talking about at all. When you take care of yourself first, you have what it takes to play a bigger game. Women are gathering all over the planet with courage and self worth.

My suggestion to you if you so want it, is to let go and nurture you.

Here are some steps to love you up and still get it all done!

#1 Start your day with self love
When you get up in the morning make the first 30 minutes your time. Do what you love to do. Paint, dance, garden. Do whatever makes your heart sing. (Please do not use this as time to get more done). This is your love you time!

#2 Joint Venture's for women
Run your life like a business. Only do the things that you want to do and find a way to get support on the other details. It's amazing that when you stop saying 'I can't' how many options open up in your space. If you can't get out of your own way then go ask your friends for advice.

#3 Be Flexible
When you feel like you have to get things done you can easily drop into a ridged mentality. What I know for sure is that nobody feels the love when they are ridged. Everything becomes hard and people do not want to be around you. Let go and let God. Have some fun with seeing where life goes when you follow other peoples lead. Let it go, it's not the end of the world!

Here's to you finding healthy boundaries and still getting it done!

I want to know how it goes when you try one of these steps, or what steps do you already do that create the that love time?

For the past two years, Shanda has focused solely on creating opportunities for women (both individually and by creating 'sisterhoods') using her business expertise in applying cutting edge tools and key principles proven in successful business.

She is also a highly sought after life coach and speaker specializing in women's interests and issues. She travels the globe assisting individuals, companies, and large groups.

Effective Dating Tips To Keep In Mind

Dating is a form of courtship that one hopes will ultimately lead to an intimate relationship. It is an activity involving two people who are in the process of getting to know one another, and evaluating each other's potential to become one's intimate partner.

Most of the time, it is the men who ask for a date with a woman. However, a good number of men find it difficult to figure out women. They are immobilized by questions like "how do I act around her?", "What will I wear?", and "What if she finds me boring?" Well, here are some tips for men on dating women:



1. Wear clothes that look good on you, and clothes that are not out of style. And make sure your shoes are clean, shiny, and neat. (Note: Women always look at your shoes!)

2. Fix your hair. And by that, I mean go the barbershop and get your hair styled in a way that suits you.

3. Shave your facial hair; it will give you a neat and fresh impression. Most women don't go for full beards. However, a day or two of growth neatly trimmed gives younger men (20's and 30's) an edgy, masculine look that can work. On older men, it tends to make them look tired and disheveled.

4. It should go without saying, but from what some women report, it needs saying; take a shower before your date so you will look fresh and clean.

5. Wear a cologne or perfume that is not irritating to the nose; something not strong.

6. Women want a man with ambition. So, you should know what your plans in life are because women, most of the time, asks about your future plans.

7. Women do not like stupidity; so make sure you know about the current events and the news.

8. Being an alcoholic won't win you a lady. Drinking cocktails with her is fine, but getting drunk with her on a date is a no-no.

9. Pick a topic that interests your date, not you. Most men initiates "sports" talk, which, usually, gives the woman an impression that he is not an insightful one.

10. Sex is a big no-no on a first date. Women like men who are patient. 11. Treat your date with respect; do not use foul languages.

12. Know how to eat in a fancy restaurant.

13. Be knowledgeable about fashion, accessories, and flowers; these are things of women's interests.

14. Be a gentleman; open the door for her, help her with her seat, and let her go first.

15. Women love to talk. So, listen to every word she says and give smart opinions. Let her finish talking first; don't interrupt in mid-sentences.

16. Do not smoke in front of your date; it is a big turn-off.

17. Women also love to dance. So, if you are not a dancer, then learn how to dance.

18. Take your date to her home, safely. And make sure she get's in the house, before you run off to your home.

Finally, if you say you're going to call again, call. If you don't intend to don't say you will.

Writing For Women

There are many men bloggers in the Internet who choose women as their target audience. However, most of them fail to get the interest of these women. Women seem not to care to what they write while men try their best to write for these women. Thus, for those who ask how they will be able to write for women, the answer for it may be abstract and men can never answer that for sure. Why do men write for women audience?

Men may have a hard time writing for women since they think differently. This is already seen in times when a man and a woman have an argument. While men think that they understand women, the fact is they really don't know what is running in their minds. In many arguments, men lose because they try to keep talking for the woman to understand him but she is not listening to what he is saying. Thus, the efforts are going useless. Women on the other hand, want that a man he is talking t will listen to her. Thus, she waits for the time when he is no longer shouting and only then will she speak her piece. A woman then gets what she wants since a guy will now listen to her.

Also, a tip for men who writes for women as their target audience, it must be understood that they may get the attention of women by trying to write about the interests of the woman. Thus, a guy can write anything that can catch the attention of a woman once he focuses on the interest and not on the gender.

Writing for women doesn't really need any change or any special technique. You just simply writ the way you normally do and change the topic the way that it may have a better inclination to women's interests. As women may be hard to be understood, especially by a man, then try to use different views and at least one of them will click with the interest of a woman.